Long story short, the father of my wife's best friend from grade school through high school has died here in town.  Jodi and Mary had a falling out (jodi claims it was over me) at graduation and they have not spoken in probably 20 years.

I feel we should make a trip to the funeral home to pay our respects to the family. Maybe extend an olive branch for Jodi and Mary to try and fix their long gone friendship.

I am afraid to even bring it up. I told Jodi about his passing and she made a comment about that it was sad, but that was a chapter in her life long forgotten.

Do I pursue this or drop it?

Drop it.  If she doesn't want to revisit that part of her life, that's her choice.  Something from twenty years ago shouldn't be a source of tension for you two now.  Not all friendships need to be fixed, some belong in the past.  Gotta pick the battles worth fighting.

I completely agree with Dar…let it go. 

I agree with Darlene and Taz.  You could always go on your own if you really feel the need, but high school was ages ago. If Jodi doesn't feel like going, I don't think it's horrible for her not to.

I am completely agape.

She is considering going. Even though not one of her friends showed up for her dad's wake or funeral.

It will all depend upon her work schedule…the wake and funeral is at 1pm on Thursday.

But she did pretty much say what you guys said….there is obligation to go, she kinda just wants to do it to try and be nice, not really mend the fence so to speak.

Thanks for your opinions!

Well now it is double moot.

Niether one of us can get out of work as it is in the afternoon.

How the hell did 3 people in my office all get off at the same time?

feh.