Hey Kids,

I talked to my downstairs neighbor about having a Thanksgiving potluck at our (combined) apartment. I don't have any family, except for my mom and it will be her last Thanksgiving at home, so I'm going to try to do what I can to have her enjoy it. (That's hard in its own right because she doesn't really enjoy much that's outside of her own head. And last Christmas when I prepared a major meal, she refused to eat it.)

I was telling my boyfriend that he should come over if he has the chance after his family's get together.

And then he invited me to his Thanksgiving.

So first, I don't know how to analyze this, because I don't really know when his family does what on Thanksgiving.

I think we will go to a bar with some friends the night before (next Wed). And I know he wants to do a TDay 5K run that he does ever year w/ his family… I told him I would do it with him because it's short enough that I don't think I'll have to worry about my ITB injury flaring up. BUT I told him that thinking that his brother and his sister weren't running.

Anyway, as far as TD goes, the reason it's sort of a big deal to be invited is because his entire family will be there: his dad, his brother's family, his sister's family, some aunts and uncles, and at least one set of grandparents - but possibly two?

And I haven't met any of them. So I'd be meeting them ALL on a holiday.

They make movies about that shit.

I don't know whether to say yes or no. Part of me wants to meet them all and see what they're like together. And part of me is totally freaked out about meeting them all and seeing what they're like together.

I know that he's really close with his family, particularly his sister, so it's important to me to talk to her - and that she likes me (or at least doesn't dislike me).

But there's also a concern about saying no. I don't know if he's told his family that he's asked me. I get the feeling from his friends that his family's really fun and Ken says they like everybody. But I feel like boyfriends/girlfriends have a whole other standard to live up to.

So I'm afraid to say yes. I'm afraid to say no. And if I try to break up my day, I don't really know how to plan for it.

Advice? (It's probably really simple, and I'm being an ass. I know.)

Oh, and I guess it's obvious, but I REALLY like him. Like love him like him. So he's just not some guy with some family.

I say just go for it!

Just a thought…. but what about trying to do both?  You could skip the run and do a Thanksgiving brunch at your place for your mom (potluck, like you planned… just earlier).  And then you could have the whole rest of the day to spend with the bf without feeling guilty for ditching your plans with your mom. Just a thought. Otherwise I think you have to pick one or the other, because to try to squeeze both in the afternoon/evening is just going to stress you out too much….

I don't know that this will help, but the first time I met my first boyfriend's family (any of them) was at Thanksgiving.  I was only 16 and was TERRIFIED. Same deal as yours, where the whole extended family was there. He lived like 5 hrs away so I actually went up there and stayed for 3 days.  It was a blast… his family was so fun and welcoming, it was really neat to meet everyone in such a relaxed, festive atmosphere.

They'll love you, Em.  There's absolutely no way in hell they won't. 

Wow…you are facing pretty much the same issue Jenna's bf will be when he comes here for Turkey Day. Only he is staying overnight at our house and meeting most of Jodi's family on Turkey Day.

I say you should do it. You are so damn adorable and lovable, that you will be an instant hit. Just avoid politics and religious discussions and you should be golden.

As for you Ms. Meyers….3 days at a boyfriends at 16?

Oh….thats right, you probably just traded Bill Nye the Science guy trading cards.

*runs*

>>Oh….thats right, you probably just traded Bill Nye the Science guy trading cards.

Whatever, mister. I was gettin' more action at 16 than you get now.  Pah.

Quality…not quantity baby.

;^)

My argument still holds water, then.  *runs*  Oh yes. I went there. 

Well at least I got some last night….while you were watching your hubby sleep.

*raspberry*

Oh good gravy…we've whored up Mox's thread.

My mouth totally dropped open right before I totally cracked up laughing. hahaha

I agree what Jen said - in her initial post. :oP

Solo sex doesn't count, David. 

Moxie, I'm so sorry. We're horrible friends.

I haven't gotten any since before the election… of George W. Bush. Well, alright, it seems that way, anyway.

Mox -- if it were me, I'd try to find a way to do both.

That's my girl!

*mouth agape at sprung*

Jeffe: I'm getting enough for the both of us.

braggard.

Can you blame her? If I was banging a guy that hot I'd wear a t-shirt.

Yeah, what Jen said.

Off to design a t-shirt…

"Jeffe: I'm getting enough for the both of us."

Kiss my ass. ;)