I just dont understand other men.

Why any man would stand up an amazing woman like you beyond my comprehension.

Maybe he is only a boy?

ok.. someone.. give me the first initial of who we are talking about.. is it T?  lol

I can't really give you too much input on this ((I suffer from a severe case of low self esteem)) .....

But we are all our worst own enemy, and if you let this get under your skin, it will eat at you and the relationship.  Others have said it better than I ever could -- you maybe exactly what he is looking for in a relationship based on everything, your cuteness, your personality, your intelligence, your sensitivity ... it might just all click with him. 

And your perception of him may not be the same as his own.  You see him as a Greek God, but I'm sure if you ask him, he has his flaws, too.  He may not see himself the same way you do, just as he doesn't see YOU the same way you do.

If this guy is that great, don't overthink things ... just enjoy the fact that he's into you and you have a great time together.

And I could recommend a cheesy teen romance novel you could read that goes into this whole relationship issue (he's the gorgeous one, she feels plain and doesn't recognize her own beauty), but I think that everyone else said it far better .....

And I think I know who it is -- and if I'm right, Wolfy, the name doesn't start with T.  (screen name or real name)

damn.. lol

you know what they say…

it doesn't matter how good looking they are, there is some boy/girlfriend putting up with their shit!!!!

just go with the flow hon and have a good time…

I guess he didn't officially stand me up since we didn't officially have plans. He said he'd call me if he was in the area. And he didn't call or come to the area. So it was more that he didn't do what I wanted him to do versus him standing me up. Sorry, girlbrain took over for a day or so.

In any case, I think he's asked me out on a bona fide date today. Sorta.

For right now, don't worry about the "official" ness of it all ... just go with the flow.  Enjoy his company, and see how it progresses. If you start putting labels on everything, it might get more confusing quicker.

Good luck!!

this is how awesome he is:

about a month ago he sent me my name in binary code:

01101000 01101111 01110100 00100000 01110011 01110100 01110101 01100110 01100110

after i used that to sign a recent email, he sent me a binary code translator. apparently that isn't my name. it spells "hot stuff"

he's hilarious!

cute!

Hint: If he's geeky enough to send you your name in binary code, chances are he's the kind of guy that is way more interested in your total package than simply what's on the outside. ;)

I go through some low self-confidence about my looks sometimes. Mostly due to my weight, which has manifested itself in the typical "approaching-middle-edge pudge." I could stand to lose 20 pounds, and while I don't think it's necessarily UNattractive, it's something that bothers me.

So yeah, I know how it feels to worry about whether or not your partner is attracted to you… which is exacerbated in my situation by the fact that my partner isn't particularly interested in a whole lotta boot-knockin'.

But when I look back on my relative success with the opposite sex, I don't feel so bad about it. For example, during my separation. Despite some emotional fiascos… physically, I was doing pretty darned well with the ladies. But I don't think it's primarily about my looks. I'm alright there, but I'm nothing to write home about. I definitely think my "sexiness" is more intellectual than physical.

And I'm with Ricardo on the "cute is hot" thing. Frankly, when I meet a woman that I find attractive, it often strikes me that there isn't one kind of "template" that appeals to me. It's more about the whole package… though I often find that unusual looking women (i.e. women who don't look like actresses or models) are the ones that get me going.

Also, I tend to like a woman with a little more "curve" (i.e. not emaciated) than one would find on one of the aforementioned actresses/models.

I'm rambling. Basically, women should remember (since they're give the opposite message by popular culture) that there is no single standard by which BEAUTY is measured. If the dude wants your body, he wants it. Why question it?