i'm being courted, i think?

i work at a radio station. one of the deejay's there, who i rarely work with but sometimes schedule bands for, (i'll call him 'ted') just asked me out… for a beer.

he's cute, and seems nice. rumor is that he's a little bit of a diva (ego). i haven't seen that side of him yet. he's a musician, i'm not really into his music but he's won some awards for best acoustic solo performances for the last three years running, so maybe he's better live?

this is new territory for me, i'm hardly ever approached by people that i know. and i've never had anything happen with a co-worker. the station is really relaxed and the music director is all about me meeting someone. she's only warned me about one deejay, and they came right out and said, 'don't sleep with so-and-so. he's a dog.' so from that alone it sounds like they're not concerned about any sort of intermingling. i'm almost curious if she's trying to set us up. he's clearly done some research on me, some of which someone would almost have to tell him. (where i work outside of radio, my myspace pages, etc.)

anyway, a few days ago he made a flirty remark in front of a band that i do some booking work for, and then his cohost asked me to join them later for a cinco de mayo thing. then 'ted' asked me to call him and i e-mailed him my number instead. since then he's been text messaging me several times a day, inviting me to his shows and eventually asking me out for a beer.

so i guess this is a good distraction from losing lee, but i'm wondering how careful i should be about going out with someone from work. right now i'm just going to behave like he's just asking me to have a beer as a friend and see what happens. i'm tempted to ask my music director if she's matchmaking, but i think i'll just try and keep this separate from the station and not really mention it to anyone. 

we haven't gone for drinks yet, and i'll probably be at the station today towards the end of his show (i see him maybe once every week and a half)... so i don't know if that will be awkward or not. we'll see…

anyway, any advice?

I say go for it, get the drinks and see where things go outside of a work environment.  I know there's the big don't fish off the company pier thinking that goes around, but my husband and I worked together, and I even broke up with him once while we still worked together.  Its more about maturity than anything in that case.

Besides, could be fun just to get out and hang out again.

Life's short. Go for it.

I wouldn't worry about the whole dating a coworker thing…I married one.  Besides, you said that you only encounter him every so often, it's not like you work side-by-side every day.  Go for it.  If it looks like there may be potential for something exclusive, then just talk about the possible ramifications of it working out/not working out.  Go in with your eyes open, and you should be fine.

I'm sorry I didn't see this sooner…how's it been going? Or have you not seen him yet?

I think you should go for it.

Ems, you are beautiful, funny, talented and such a warm and loving person. You have a big heart and it's about damn time someone courted you for YOU.

Go for it.

That's just my little ole opinion tho. :)

I just have to ditto what everyone else said.

what've you got to lose? just see where it goes.

thanks guys…

gloworm - you're so sweet. i'm all about someone courting me! i went out with him last night (he asked me out five nights in a row, i gave in a day early - we were supposed to go out tonight).

he's great. he's a little dorky, but it's likeable dorky versus ashamed-to-be-in-the-same-room with him dorky. and he seems really into me, though i'm not sure what sparked it all. he seems really genuine and kind and thoughtful, and so far he's called when he said he would and done what he said he'd do and i have no complaints. i don't think he's a game player and i don't think he's a cynic, so for the moment i'm pleasantly surprised.

i'll keep you updated! :)

yay! I'm pleasantly excited for you! ;)

seriously, it's nice to hear and I'm glad that he's keeping his word so far. you totally deserve to be courted!

and he seems really into me, though i'm not sure what sparked it all.

All a guy has to do is spend a couple minutes with you and the sparks start flying.  You're a very sparky personality…and you're hot as fuck.

Note to self: Go to Richard for ego stroke!

Thanks, Richard! :)

Sooo… Details available yet?

Mmm… not yet, details seem to jinxed me. Maybe more next week. :( Boo.

life is too short…

have fun!

DO IT UP…. God man, do it up.

ergh. yup. think i jinxed it. shoot me now. i'm an eternal fuck up.

you are not!

and I'm sure you didn't jinx it. give it a chance…